We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National Competition on Worries!
Yes!
Let me introduce our guests today.
He is always full of energy.
Joon Park!
He is as energetic as Joon.
- Din Din! - Din Din!
He will finally prove his real worth.
A former announcer, Kim Il Jung!
(The ambitious MC, Kim Il Jung)
She sings and dances well and is pretty.
She also has a good personality. Chung Ha!
(The charming Chung Ha)
Chung Ha.
- In fact, it's been a while... - She's pretty.
since the last episode.
It's been almost...
- three months. - That's right.
Many people were worried and missed our show.
- We missed you too. - Of course.
Now, we're back, and we'll do our best.
- That's right. - A few weeks have passed...
since the New Year began,
but this is our first episode of this year.
- The New Year has come. - Let's give New Year greetings.
New Year 2018 has begun.
- Happy New Year! - Happy New Year!
- Happy New Year! - Bam!
(We prepared special gifts for the audience.)
Give it to Din Din.
Give them out.
Happy New Year.
- You're so pretty. - Thank you.
(The guests are giving out rice cakes by themselves.)
Happy New Year.
- We prepared a lot. - Thank you.
At the end of the row. That's right.
(Viewers, thank you very much for waiting for us for so long.)
- I'll do it. - My gosh.
- Good job. - Isn't the rice cake pretty?
- Yes! - Yes!
Take a picture with it too.
- The rice cake is really pretty. - Right.
(We'll start over again with enthusiasm in 2018!)
It's so good to see the other hosts again after a long break.
- Me too. - It's so good to see you all again.
Dong Yeob, you missed me too, right?
- Of course I did. - Do you mean that?
Which side? The left or right side?
Your back. That's right. Good.
My gosh.
(Hitting)
Why did you do that to me?
I was just so embarrassed.
Joon, give the viewers well wishing remarks.
Well... Come again?
- Wish them well for the New Year. - Wish them well?
I see.
Everyone, there are two things you need to remember for the New Year.
First, a lot of good things will happen to you.
Second, please pronounce "2018" very carefully.
You know what I'm saying, right?
- Joon. - Say something to Yeong Ja too.
Say something to the hosts.
Yeong Ja, I wish your mouth will become smaller this year.
- Okay. - Her mouth?
- What about Tae Gyun? - Tae Gyun.
- I wish you a smaller head. - A smaller head.
- We need similar things. - What about Dong Yeob?
I wish you a larger gap between your eyes.
- Okay. Spread out. - A larger gap between his eyes.
Do you have any worries that you want to resolve...
or any wishes that you want to make come true?
I'm worried because my puppy jumps too often.
- Your puppy jumps? - Yes.
I'm afraid it might damage the bones.
Stop worrying, and come on to my show, "Animal Farm".
- That'd be great. - Your worry has been resolved.
- I would love to do that. - Good.
My worries... This is my third year as a freelance show host.
- You haven't settled down yet. - In my first year...
(Yeong Ja, please.)
- I wish to have my own uniqueness. - I see.
Uniqueness is important for entertainers.
I believe that it's about time for KBS to step up.
That's right. You need to hire me.
While watching TV, I analyze TV shows and show hosts.
I need a good partner to be successful.
- Like Kang Ho Dong and Lee Su Geun. - I get it.
And Yu Jae Seok and Park Myung Soo.
Dong Yeob doesn't have...
his right-hand and left-hand man.
I see what you're trying to say.
No pressure. I'm just saying.
- He works alone. - No pressure.
- He's a lone wolf. - I wish to be his left-hand man.
Dong Yeob's eyes are too close to each other to see his sides.
- He only sees ahead. - He can't see his sides.
He can't see his left or right side.
- Din Din. - I...
As soon as the New Year began,
my name was ranked first on the internet hit list.
- Really? - My name was the on the top.
I gave a performance at KBS Drama Awards.
Many people were impressed by my performance.
So this year,
- I hope my music career... - You'll focus on your music career.
- will be successful as well. - I see.
(Everyone's wishes will come true.)
- Can you rap for us? - Right.
- Rap? - You can sing your own song.
(I have never wanted money)
(I walk this road with my dream alone)
(He wrote his personal wishes in the lyrics.)
(Jump higher in 2018!)
Today, we have three keywords as always.
Show us the keywords please.
It's been a while. Three keywords.
"My Brother Is Stupid", "Make My Wish Come True",
and "Useless Words".
- Make it sound desperate. - Okay. This is a man's story.
Hello. I'm a married man in my 40s. I live in Busan.
My wish for the New Year is...
to have dinner with my wife like a happy couple.
- Sorry? With his wife? - His wife must work too much.
"Honey, why aren't you coming home?"
"I'm going to be late today. I'm hanging up now."
(She hung up the phone.)
- My wife is always drunk. - Oh, no.
I'll tell you how much she drinks.
I took her to a hospital because her stomach hurt after drinking.
"My stomach feels..."
(Retching)
"My stomach feels..."
(Retching again)
She throws up so quietly.
(She throws up gently.)
"Doctor, could it be that my wife has a disease?"
"Congratulations."
- What? - "She's pregnant."
My goodness.
She kept drinking without knowing she was pregnant?
- That's right. - That's not good.
I thought she would change after our baby came out.
- They change after becoming a mom. - However...
"Honey, feed the baby, will you?"
"I'm hung over. I can't do that."
"Then at least do the laundry."
"I'm going to go out for a drink. I'm busy."
She's always too busy to do house chores...
- or to look after our baby. - My gosh.
I wonder if I could enjoy dinner with my wife while she's sober.
This is my New Year wish.
He's the opposite of me.
Isn't his what Chan Woo and Dong Yeob's wives worry about?
Have you eaten dinner with your family since the New Year began?
- Please move on. - Right.
- What about you, Dong Yeob? - I ate with them a lot.
You're lying. It's been only 15 days since the New Year began.
Still, I ate with them a few... A few... A few times.
"A few... A few... A few times."
His ears turned red.
(His ears continued to turn red this year.)
- His ears are so red. - He can't lie.
- You feel guilty, right? - Yes.
- Right. - Red ears.
- Chan Woo. You feel guilty, right? - Yes?
- Please move on. - Okay.
Let's hear his story. Please come on out.
(Whose wife drinks all the time?)
(Kwon Dae Han)
- I really like that slide. - Hello
(Sliding down)
How often does your wife drink?
I've been living with her for eight years since we got married.
I don't remember seeing her coming home without drinking.
- She drinks every day. - Every day?
No. She drinks four days a week except for Mondays.
- Why doesn't she drink on Mondays? - Four days a week.
She rests at home during the weekend,
and she gets tired after work.
- She gets more tired on Mondays. - So she skips Mondays.
Her liver needs time to recover.
(I don't even have to explain that.)
(His wife cares about her liver.)
She drinks on a regular basis.
She drinks too often, and it makes my life so hard.
I wouldn't worry if she drinks moderately, but she drinks a lot.
Once she starts drinking, she goes all the way.
- She wants to go all the way. - I see.
She comes home between 1:30am and 2am.
She usually comes home at that time.
Whenever she comes home drunk, she won't let me sleep.
- She... - Right.
She tries to seduce me. She takes my pants off...
(Everyone is taken aback.)
Tell that kind of stories to me later. Please move on.
We have a daughter who turned four this year.
She drank without knowing she was pregnant.
She drank 3 bottles of soju and 1 bottle of liquor...
with her cousin.
- 2 people drank that much? - 2 people.
- They drank a lot. - She drank that much,
and I took her to a hospital next day as she had an upset stomach.
The doctor told us that she was pregnant.
Both you and your wife must've been surprised.
Then...
Both of us cried because we were so happy.
- You were happy? - You cried happy tears?
(It's so funny.)
Didn't she stop drinking after that?
She drank non-alcohol drinks during her pregnancy.
After giving birth to our baby, she met her friends...
- and drank some beer... - While she was doing this?
- Breastfeeding. - But while breastfeeding...
"Doing this?" That's ridiculous.
(Oh, it's called breastfeeding.)
While she was breastfeeding, she drank beer.
Since she can't breastfeed the baby after drinking,
she fed the baby formula and threw away her breast milk.
That's what she did while breastfeeding.
- She likes drinking that much. - I've never seen anyone...
who likes drinking that much.
(I'm too stressed out.)
Does she not drink on weekends?
If she has plans on weekends, she goes out leaving the baby to me.
She doesn't drink that often on weekends?
She drinks every Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.
She was supposed to go on an overnight trip this weekend
- She went on a trip? - to drink with her friends.
But she couldn't join them because of this.
She goes on an overnight trip to have a drink?
- A drinking trip. - Is there such a thing?
Is there such a thing as a drinking trip?
Yes, there is.
- My gosh. - What kind of trip is that?
Didn't you know that she drinks a lot before getting married?
I didn't know that she drank that much.
How was she before you married her?
When I first met her, I asked her.
"Do you like drinking?"
She said she enjoyed it sometimes, but wouldn't drink often.
That's what those who like drinking always say.
When we decided to get married,
she said she would stop drinking and focus on our marriage.
So I married her,
but I feel like I'm a victim of marriage fraud.
(This is not fair.)
What house chores do you do?
You said you do a lot of house chores.
Every morning, I feed our daughter.
I send her to her kindergarten and bring her home.
After that, I feed and bathe her.
After I put her to sleep, my wife comes home in the evening.
- You do everything. - What about laundry?
I'm still curious about that.
She won't do the laundry. She did it only 5 times in 3 years.
- Did you do the laundry? - Did you do it instead?
One time, I was so angry, so I meant not to do it,
- The laundry piles up. - but I needed clean underwear.
- You didn't have a choice. - Even before having the baby?
She never did it before having our baby either.
So you do all the house chores...
like a housewife, right?
That's right. That's why I told her to stop drinking.
But she said that drinking brings her happiness...
and is the joy of her life.
But she has a child. What about her child?
She said that her own life and our baby are two different things.
It's more important to her.
- Drinking is? - I guess so.
It looks like that's the case.
(It's hard to see the reason for now.)
(However, Dae Han feels like his blood is boiling.)
They love and care so much about each other.
- Let's meet his wife. Hello. - Hello.
(Who could be his wife who loves drinking?)
What do you think of what he said? Oh, no. She's...
- Why are you crying? - Is it because you're sorry to him?
Or is it because you think it's unfair?
- I cry easily. - I see.
Those who drink a lot tend to cry easily.
How do you feel now that you heard what your husband said?
My husband can't drink much.
That's why he doesn't understand me.
I don't think it's a worry.
You said he can't understand you because he doesn't drink.
Are you saying that you would...
drink with him at home if he could drink a lot?
Or are you saying that he would understand...
why you drink often with your friends or work colleagues?
I drink because I get stressed out.
Besides, just because a woman is married,
that doesn't mean she must stay home without meeting people.
- Of course. - You're right.
I have a job, and there are work get-togethers,
so I have a drink from time to time.
I think it's just that we're in different positions.
If you two are simply in different situations, you wouldn't drink...
- four times a week. - That's too often.
I don't drink four days a week.
How many times do you drink a week?
- 3 times? - 2 times on average.
- Twice? - Is that true?
More than twice. The witnesses are here.
Aside from drinking at work get-togethers,
you even drank with your cousin...
at home all night long.
As some people must know, when you drink,
at some point, you don't even realize you're drinking.
- 1 drink turns into many. - You start with 1 drink,
but it leads to many drinks.
It's not true that I drink until I get hammered...
every time I drink.
She uses unusual expressions.
He said that he does most of the house chores.
Is it not entirely true?
- It's not entirely true. - Explain to us.
As for looking after our baby,
I focus solely on looking after her when I am with her.
Also, we split the house chores.
I think he exaggerated it because of my drinking habits.
Why did you promise you would quit drinking?
That's why he feels like a victim of marriage fraud.
Everyone makes a promise that they won't keep...
before getting married.
That's what men usually do.
- I suddenly feel guilty. - I have something to say too.
My husband smokes.
- Does he smoke a lot? - Before we got married,
he said he'd quit smoking. Then he said he'd quit after having a baby.
After that, he promised to quit smoking after the baby comes out.
However, he still smokes.
Also, he likes playing video games.
I think that's the way he enjoys his life and relieves stress.
So I respect his hobbies.
But he thinks drinking is unacceptable...
while his hobbies are okay.
That's what he thinks, and it makes me upset.
- As a person who likes drinking, - What's going on?
- I understand her to some extent. - Me too.
However, you drink until late. That's what makes him worry.
- Can't you go home early? - What do you think about that?
Since I'm the life of the party,
it's hard to go home early.
I try to be loyal to my friends.
I hate that I'm becoming convinced.
Me too. I keep saying, "That's understandable."
(You must not let her sway you.)
Does drinking that much not influence your daily life?
I have no problem going to work.
I'm a good employee.
- She's strong. - How much can you drink?
- I've never measured it before. - Exactly.
- As far as you remember... - She has no limit.
(That's not something to brag about.)
This is one of the worries that your husband told us.
Whenever you drink, why do you...
Why do you wake him up...
- She's like a husband. - and bother him?
It feels like that.
I mean, it's not good.
When I get tipsy, I feel good.
I try to seduce him because I feel good.
(He doesn't seem to understand her at all.)
Do you always remember what you did?
Or do you tend to black out?
- I tend to black out... - You tend to black out.
Tell us honestly. You remember everything.
(You remember everything.)
Dae Han, what do you think about it?
I had to go to work next day.
I checked the time. She came home 3am.
It's too tiring. When she...
- He checked the time. - I mean,
- she reeks of alcohol. - I understand.
This is inappropriate for a TV show.
(She even blow on his face.)
We end up having a fight. I begged her...
not to bother me after drinking.
Does she express her affection for you as well...
- when she didn't drink? - No, she doesn't.
- At all? - At all.
Only when she's drunk...
She does that only when she's drunk.
(Physical contact without emotion is not good.)
Your wife said that she doesn't do much of the house chores,
but she's doing her best to raise her child.
She said that before. What do you think about it?
Not long ago, I took our child to a hospital because she was sick.
I told my wife that our child had a cold,
and I was taking her to a hospital.
She said that she had a work get-together,
and she might come home late.
It's strange that her company has a get-together so often.
Too often. Our child was very sick.
I fed, bathed, and put her to sleep.
Then she came home completely drunk.
(She came home completely drunk.)
I can explain this too.
The get-together that day was planned a few months earlier.
When I called him after work, he said our baby was fine...
and told me to go ahead.
So I only stayed for a while and went home before 10pm.
I arrived home around 9:30pm.
You went home quite early that day.
Yes, I did. I try to keep it modest.
When I was working at the station, I often drank with my co-workers.
Since I like meeting other people,
- I often organized get-togethers. - I understand.
My wife complained a lot.
"Do I have to raise our child by myself?"
"Our child is a newborn baby, so there is a lot to do."
but I said, "I'm sorry, but I have a work get-together."
You volunteer to organize work get-togethers, right?
- You invite your co-workers, right? - She organizes it.
Since you're here, just tell us honestly.
I feel that you organize events more than you're invited.
People often ask me to join them.
- She's the life of the party. - Right.
You know...
The two of them have two different points of view about the same thing.
His wife said that she always does her best to raise her child...
while Dae Han said that it's not true.
However, two people who know well about their marriage...
are here.
Hello.
Please speak to the mic.
I heard you strongly agreed to come on to this show.
I knew about the problem, but I wanted to be a good mother-in-law.
So I didn't say anything while holding it in.
However, I saw my son struggling and being distressed.
So I suggested we should hold a family meeting.
If they would reach an agreement, we wouldn't come on the show.
Otherwise, we should give it a try.
- They didn't reach an agreement. - That's right.
It was hard for them to bridge the differences.
How did you find out that your daughter-in-law drinks a lot?
In the early years of marriage, I received a credit card bill.
- A credit card bill? - We weren't living together then,
- but he hadn't changed his address. - I see.
I checked the bill and found out she spent it on drinking mostly.
That made me very angry,
but my son was living with her because he loves her.
- I couldn't say anything. - You're right.
I just let it slide.
But when you visit them,
I guess they clean up everything before you come.
- You might not have noticed... - When she visits unannounced...
These days, you shouldn't show up unannounced.
I'm sorry.
Did you notice anything when you visited their place?
There was no food for the baby or for the two of them.
I hope she'll come home early so that the three of them...
can have dinner together and have a good time.
- Your daughter-in-law works. - She has a job.
- Compared to a stay-at-home mom, - They both have a job.
she must have less time to do all the chores.
- You understand that, right? - I do.
My son does all the house chores,
but I'm not against that.
But the important thing is that they should be happy.
And at work, they should do their best.
I hope this will be their chance to become happier.
(I hope they'll become happier.)
What disappointed you the most?
Last summer, we went to the beach.
Including our in-laws, the four of us.
Suddenly, my daughter-in-law left, saying she was meeting her friends.
While you were on a trip?
And she didn't come back that day.
She came back the next morning, drunk.
- You must have been shocked. - You must have been hurt.
I was very upset, but I didn't say anything.
I couldn't say anything.
- She's... - You're unbelievable.
- Seriously... - His wife is...
We all love to drink,
but imagine you're on a trip with your in-laws.
I wouldn't leave in the middle.
- It can't have been easy. - I wouldn't be able to do that.
While your mother was talking, you cried.
It makes me so sad.
- He wants to be happy. - Did it remind you...
of all the things that have happened?
(He feels bad.)
When my wife comes home drunk,
I think of getting a divorce.
But I can't because of my daughter.
- Including that... - But my wife won't change.
- You love her, but... - Yes.
He must want to show his mother...
- that he's happy. - Of course.
How do you feel after listening to your mother-in-law?
When there is a family event coming up,
I should keep it in mind.
But when my friends come up with a plan, I just say yes.
I often end up double-booked.
- But... - You could say, "I can't come."
In addition, you didn't come back that day.
I didn't sleep at someone else's place.
I just didn't want to go back to my in-laws' place drunk.
So I slept at my own place, and the next morning,
I went to my in-laws' to pick up my kid.
Was it impossible to cancel the appointment?
When I plan something,
- I try to stick with it. - The thing is,
she seems like the kind of person...
who doesn't care a lot about family events.
She just likes to hang out with her friends.
- She just says yes. - Still...
She likes to have fun.
(She's a fun-loving person.)
Her mother is here too. Hello.
Hello.
Please hold the microphone.
She must feel uncomfortable right now.
- She must. - I know.
- She's on pins and needles. - Exactly.
- Oh, my. - She looks so uncomfortable.
How do you feel right now?
I'm on pins and needles.
- Who did she get it from? - You?
Her dad.
You must relate to your son-in-law.
Yes. He's really nice.
Anyone could see that.
He looks like Yoon Da Hoon, but he looks nicer.
- Yoon Da Hoon? - He's so gentle...
- He looks a lot nicer. - and nice.
He's very understanding.
I always feel sorry for him.
- I always feel bad. - Really...
Have you ever scolded your daughter for it?
- If my daughter was like her, - Right?
I'd slap her on the back so hard.
"Get your act together!"
- "It hurts!" - "You brat!"
I do that a lot.
- You slapped her on the back? - Yes.
I hit her head too.
- You feel bad. - "You have such a good husband."
"If he had been a bit tougher,"
"he would have kicked you out." I've told her that many times.
But even when she was in school,
- she was very active. - She was active.
She has good leadership abilities.
- She's a good leader. - At work... Yes.
- She's a good talker too. - You seem to...
You admit her actions, but you want to defend her.
She's her mother.
Mothers are all like that.
Your daughter says she takes care of their child alone.
Her husband says he takes care of their child alone.
What's your opinion?
It's impossible for my son-in-law to completely take care of the child.
- You're right. - I'd say 50-50.
50-50. What about house chores?
- House chores. - My son-in-law does more.
- He does more. - Yes.
What do you think? Who takes care of their child more?
- I think it's 50-50. - Then it must be right.
When it comes to house chores, my son does more.
- How much more? - He does 90 percent of it.
- Ask her too. - 90 percent?
- Yes. - Now we know.
You even said...
you've thought about getting a divorce.
One day, I couldn't take it any more. She came home drunk...
and...
called me names.
- Even though you didn't fight? - She came home drunk,
so I said, "Stop drinking. Please get your act together."
Can you say it in a mild way?
- Your mothers are here. - They're aware of it.
They talked about it at a family meeting.
And what else?
Not this finger...
- She showed me her middle finger. - Her middle finger.
She showed it to me.
I was so shocked...
I packed my stuff and left.
Two days later, I got a call.
She said she ran out of milk and diapers for our daughter.
She asked me to get them. It was for my daughter,
so I bought them and went home.
- You're so nice. - Did your wife call you...
- and asked you to get them? - No.
It was her friend she drank with.
- Her friend? - She called me...
Did your wife ask her to call you?
Whenever my wife drinks with her, she drinks too much.
How did your wife react when you left home?
Or when you came back?
- When you came back... - When I went back home,
the house was all clean.
She had cooked, done the dishes, and done the laundry.
Didn't she change after that?
- How long did it last? - How long did it last?
About four days.
After four days, she went back.
(She drank again after 4 days.)
I have to deal with stress from taking care of our child and stuff.
After drinking, I came home feeling happy.
I wished he'd try to understand me,
but he just criticized me for drinking.
- You have a stigma. - He did that.
- What stresses you out? - Tell us.
I've worked in customer service for a long time.
- I see. - And?
It involves a high level of emotional labor.
Yes.
It's called, "smile-mask syndrome". I have to smile all the time.
"Smile-mask syndrome".
(Bottoms up)
- Did you see that? - Is that alcohol?
(She can't hide her habit.)
- Did you see that? - I thought it was alcohol.
Why in that cup?
Her moves were extraordinary.
Did you see her moves?
If you have a lot of conversation,
she could relieve her stress at home.
You could ask her about her day.
- I'd ask her, - "How was your day?"
"How was your day? What happened?"
"I did this and this."
She finishes her meal and pushes the table away with her foot.
"Cut it out and put away the food."
- When she's sober? - Yes.
Do you think it's hard to talk to her?
I just put away the table and cleaned up.
(My goodness.)
It was impossible to talk to her.
Try putting yourself in your husband's shoes.
Let's say he's playing games and calls you names.
He kicks the table and tells you to put away the food.
How would you feel?
I'd be offended too in that situation.
But he was frowning and glaring at me.
It made me angry.
- You lost your temper. - I think so.
When you wake up the next morning, you don't remember exactly...
how you looked and what you said when you came home drunk.
But what you do and say can be horrendous to the other person.
You talk about the stress you get from dealing with customers.
But you're giving the same stress to your husband.
It seems like a vicious circle to me.
(A vicious circle)
I heard that your wife made you upset a few days ago too.
We were supposed to talk to the show's writer on the phone,
but my wife went to meet her relative.
She wanted to drink. The writer couldn't reach her.
In the end, my wife called me from an unknown number.
She said she'd lost her phone. It was 2am.
The next morning, I got a call from a stranger.
He said my wife fell while she was drunk...
and damaged his motorbike. He asked me for 300 dollars.
We had a fight today too because of that.
I'm relieved that you didn't get hurt.
The motorbike was parked.
That's why...
You said you never lose control, but you fell while you were drunk.
- It means you lost control. - She did.
I'm not sure if I should ask...
the husband this question right now, but I'll give it a go.
Are you happy in your marriage?
(Are you happy?)
My daughter makes me happy.
But if I was really happy, I wouldn't be here right now.
You're here because you want to become happy.
But you must have fallen in love with her...
- because she was so active... - That's right.
- and had good leadership qualities. - Exactly.
Isn't that why you liked her in the first place?
She was like an angel back then.
- She put me before herself. - She was nice.
Yes, she was.
After we got married, when she started coming home drunk,
I felt something was not right.
- He didn't know that about her. - Something was not right.
- No, he didn't. - Something was not right.
You should look into it before you get married.
I should look into it before I get married.
- I will ask her... - It's an earnest piece of advice.
the same question.
Are you happy in your marriage?
Yes.
Would you be happy to continue living this way?
I guess I should change.
That's right. You came here because you want to change.
How does it feel to hear that your husband isn't happy?
(Her husband isn't happy.)
- Do you feel bad? - Of course she does.
Yes.
(She feels sorry and regretful.)
How should your wife change...
for you to be happy in marriage?
I don't ask for much. When I asked her to stop drinking,
she told me that I am taking away the joy in her life.
So I won't ask her to stop drinking entirely.
Just drink less.
Drink once a month.
I am begging you. In the evening, the family...
- should eat dinner together. - This is driving me crazy.
- "Drink once a month." - That's unrealistic.
- It's an impossible goal. - Do you think it's realistic?
- I can drink once a week. - Once a week?
- That's a nice goal. - Twice a week.
Twice a week is too much.
Will you drink once a week for two days?
- I won't do that. - Will you go on a drinking trip?
She says she will drink once a week.
- Once a week. - Are you okay with that?
I am okay with that as long as she comes home by 12am.
I want you to come home by 12am.
Can you drink once a week and come home by 12am?
(What does she think about her husband's suggestion?)
- Yes. - You know,
- you need to make an effort. - You know,
you should make an effort instead of being regretful.
Your child doesn't know much now,
but once she begins to see and understand,
- unexpected problems will occur... - That's right.
and these matters will turn serious.
"I will stop drinking when she grows up."
You won't be able to do it. I am sure of it.
It can go either way.
Your child will either copy you...
or resent you.
That's right.
This is your last chance to tell your wife what you want.
Organize your thoughts...
and talk to her as you look her in the eye.
So Ra, thank you for marrying me.
Please drink once a week and come home before 12am.
I told you when I feel the happiest.
I love having dinner with the family.
I hope you will keep your promise. I love you.
(Please keep your promise. I love you.)
He is so nice.
He is such a nice man.
You will bad for your mother and mother-in-law, right?
(To his mother and mother-in-law)
I am sorry. I will do better from now on.
Let's start with Joon.
Do you think it's a worry?
Be understanding of your wife.
Don't try to do everything at once. Change little by little.
Din Din.
- I think it's a worry. - You think it's a worry.
Il Jung.
When he was asked to say something for the last time,
he still began with "Thank you for marrying me."
You won't become distant...
with your friends and colleagues just because you drink less.
Before your child grows up,
you should spend more time with your family.
Chung Ha.
I hope a moment of happiness...
won't drive you away from the lifetime of happiness.
That's why I pressed the button.
"It must have been a worry."
"It must have been a struggle." If you think that,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
Say what you want to say to your husband.
I understand.
I will make an effort from now on.
Let's raise our pretty Na Young well...
and live happily. I love you.
The two mothers...
must have been worried all along.
So Ra, say a few words to your mother and mother-in-law.
I was inattentive to my family.
From now on, I will be a lovely daughter-in-law.
I will do my best.
(I will live diligently.)
- My goodness. - How many votes did the worry get?
- Show... - Hold on.
Their child has been sleeping so far.
- Na Young? - Is she here with them?
She woke up.
They didn't bring her to the studio because she was sleeping.
How cute!
- Look at her. - She's so cute!
How cute!
(She looks like a doll.)
- How cute! - My goodness.
She is so cute.
- Where is your mom? - She is so cute.
(Crying)
You made her cry.
Do you want to go to your mom or dad?
- Go to dad. - She was startled.
(Dong Yeob holds her.)
It's the same.
Give her to her dad.
If I hold her, she will think I am her mom.
I am not a bad man. It's okay.
Here is your dad.
- Here is your dad. - Here is your dad.
It's your dad.
- It's your dad. - My goodness.
She recognized her dad.
- She recognized him right away. - Blood is thick.
(Does she feel better?)
My goodness.
I guess you didn't raise her by yourself.
Let's go to your mom.
(I am sorry to surprise you.)
(She is brought to her mom.)
I have the same build as your mom. Don't be so picky.
(Once she is with her mom,)
Look at that.
(she stops crying right away.)
The hairstyle gave it away.
She was surprised.
- How cute! - She loves her mom.
A child should be with her mom.
Do you feel upset when she goes to her mom?
No, it's great.
- I see. - Of course it is.
Let's see how many votes "Make My Wish Come True" got.
Show us.
(The result)
The last digit is eight.
I am sure it got over 100 votes.
- Look at her. - No way. No way.
- 148 votes. - That was close.
(148 votes.)
It got a lot of votes.
This is "Useless Words".
I am a female student who turned 18 years old this year.
Every night, my mom enters the bedroom...
and shuts the door and turns off the light.
Then I hear a strange man's voice.
"You are precious."
"I love you."
That's strange.
My mom is absorbed in meditation.
That's the voice you hear when you meditate.
From morning to night, I hear,
"I am happy."
"I don't complain."
Is it a cult?
No, it's an audio for guided meditation.
"Thank you."
It's the comment from a meditation audio.
"Thinking about taking the college entrance exam..."
"makes me nervous and worried."
"You shouldn't be worried all the time."
"Why don't we..."
"calm ourselves by meditating?"
"I can't sleep these days. I always wake up."
"Why don't we..."
"listen to meditation audio that is good for insomnia?"
Her answer to every problem is meditation.
This is what upsets me the most. "Mom, I am home."
"Hold on. I am meditating. Would you please leave the room?"
It cuts off the conversation between us.
I am sick and tired of meditation.
Please stop my mom.
(Please stop my mom.)
This is the first worry...
- about meditation. - That's right.
Let's see how serious the worry is.
Please come on out.
(Whose mom is addicted to meditation?)
(Kim A Hyun)
(Welcome.)
Please introduce yourself.
Hello, I am from Jeonju.
I am a 19-year-old, Kim A Hyun.
Welcome.
(What's her worry?)
What kind of meditation audio does she listen to?
"Love yourself. You are a good person."
- "Love yourself." - That's right.
"You are a good person."
That's exactly how the voice sounds.
- That's right. - I recorded it.
- Really? - No.
(He is the master of voices.)
Since we haven't listened to it,
we have no idea what it is.
Does it play for hours?
The longest one lasts 10 hours.
- Do you listen to it at home? - Yes.
(That's ridiculous.)
It will drive anyone crazy.
(That's not all.)
My mom goes to work at 8am.
She wakes up at 5am...
and bows 108 times.
She listens to meditation audio...
as she eats and does the laundry.
She goes about her daily life with meditation.
Doesn't she watch TV?
No, she doesn't.
After she comes home from work,
she bows 108 times.
That means she bows 216 times a day.
She sleeps with the 10-hour meditation audio on.
- Does she sleep with it on? - Yes.
There is no problem...
with meditating to cleanse your soul.
To get me hooked,
she plays it when I am eating.
- "You are a good person." - That must be suffocating.
"I love you."
- "I love you." - It happens when I am home.
- Even when you study... - She does it when I study.
- You are in 12th grade. - That's right.
When you are in 12th grade, your family tiptoes in the house.
- That's right. - Now that I am in 12th grade,
I am stressed out about taking the college entrance exam.
However, she won't talk to me.
- She won't talk to you. - No.
- She is busy meditating. - Yes.
Before she became addicted to meditating,
she used to greet me and say, "You are home."
Now, she goes into the room, closes the door,
and turns off the light.
When I go into the room,
she says, "I am meditating. Get out."
Have you told her that it hurts your feelings?
I have,
but she says, "I need to be happy to spread happiness to you."
She talks like that.
(She can't get through to her mom.)
Let's talk to her mom and see why she acts this way.
- Hello. It's nice to meet you. - Hello. It's nice to meet you.
She is cheerful.
I guess meditation works. She is very cheerful.
- She is optimistic. - "Hello."
Hello.
- She is happy. - "I am a good person."
- Do you understand her worry? - I love you.
(It looks like she meditated too much.)
It looks like she is drunk.
I think she meditated too much.
Do you understand your daughter's worry?
I don't really understand.
Everyone says that at first.
How did you become addicted to meditation?
- How did it start? - I am curious.
I watched Monk Beopryun's show on the internet for a year.
While listening to it,
I accidentally got a chance to watch a meditation video.
As soon as I listened to it,
- it comforted me and warmed me up. - You feel comfortable.
Yes. It made me feel comfortable. Since then, I started meditating.
It's too much to play it at home.
Is there a reason?
Before I began meditation, I didn't want to see my husband,
and I hated him.
But after I started it,
I'm grateful for his existence.
The fact that he lives with me.
- Where can you get it? - Dong Yeob has to listen to it.
- I think her husband should listen. - It's available on the internet.
Did your relationship with your husband get better after that?
Yes. Before that, we barely said I love you.
But after meditation,
we send hearts in texts and say I love you often.
But why won't you communicate?
(She's so into meditation that she doesn't communicate.)
I heard you don't talk to your daughter.
Since I became happy through meditation,
I thought I should become happier to make my family happy...
- and share it with them. - It became excessive.
Since I invest most of my time meditating,
I probably didn't have time to talk to her.
- By the way, - Through meditation...
what kind of meditation is it that you became so addicted?
- I'm curious how you meditate. - Yes.
How much more do you need to be happy?
Breathing's important when you meditate.
- Breathing. - I should try it.
There are 55 breathing...
- to 1010 breathing. - 55.
You breathe in for five seconds...
and breathe out for five seconds...
while meditating.
Can you come up to the stage and show us?
- Greet her with applause please. - Come to the stage.
(She's excited at the thought of meditation.)
Face the front and show us.
I usually do...
talking meditation which calms you down.
- Talking meditation. - Play it please.
(Calm voice appears.)
(I love myself.)
(She calms herself down along with the voice.)
(What is this?)
(She's sick of it.)
(She's fully concentrating when they're not.)
(Listening to it makes them feel sleepy.)
(They're getting sleepy.)
(She's meditating alone.)
(I'm a valuable person.)
It sounds like an ascetic.
I'm falling asleep.
- It makes you fall asleep. - Yes.
- As you breathe in, - Does she do anything else?
- you breathe in hope and happiness, - Nothing other than this.
and when you breathe out, you breathe out thinking...
your illness and pain exit.
It said not to complain,
but what if you have a complaint?
- You... - It disappears.
- breathe it out. - You let it go as you breathe out.
If you're sick, you should say you are sick. The pain doesn't go away.
If you don't go to hospital, you die.
I don't understand it.
You let the pain go as you breathe out.
Meditation is about mind control.
You get sick when your mind is ill.
- Right. - It's the illness of the mind.
(Laughing)
(I'm full.)
(That's for me.)
(Breathing)
I want to...
- recommend this to Yeong Ja. - I'm full.
It's a diet meditation.
- That's good. Let's try it. - Let's listen to it.
(Let's do it together.)
(I've eaten enough.)
(They can't concentrate.)
I can't concentrate.
(There's nothing I want to eat.)
Did you lose weight after listening to this?
- I think she lost a lot of weight. - I'm full.
- I don't need to listen to it. - She gained weight.
- She gained weight? - I've been always skinny.
- Her daughter's funny. - She gained weight.
I think she lost a lot of weight.
(Take this.)
- She gained weight? - I've been always skinny.
- Her daughter's funny. - She gained weight.
(Laughing)
Your daughter...
(There's nothing I want to eat.)
(Still?)
(She doesn't hesitate to eat it.)
(It's not helpful to her diet.)
She ate up in a flash.
(I told you.)
Did you hear what the daughter said?
I asked her if she lost weight from this,
and she said, "She gained weight."
- She gained weight instead. - You know...
Because it's quiet,
I think of things I want to eat while meditating.
(She thinks of things she wants to eat fiercely.)
My daughter suffered from depression and panic disorder a year ago.
While she had a hard time, she quit school.
It was hard to watch my daughter suffering...
- as her parent. - Right.
I had a hard time too.
I was able to comfort myself with meditation.
Sorry to ask you, but can you tell me what happened?
Ever since I was young,
my parents often fought.
- Did they fight often? - Yes.
Every time that happened, I was scared.
- I see. - I walked into my room...
- You stayed there? - and put on earphones.
I kept listening to music.
Did that pile up...
and burst a year and a half ago?
- Then... - Yes.
every time they had a fight, I heard Mom's voice...
and thought they were fighting because of me.
I thought if I study harder...
and be nice, it'd work out.
- It burdened me. - But...
- when it didn't change anything, - The burden of it.
- it made it worse. - It burdened me.
How do you feel after listening to your daughter?
I'm very sorry. I feel guilty.
I blamed myself too.
When I was young,
my father was an alcoholic,
and he abused us verbally and physically.
Due to the environment, I had depression.
That attitude in the marriage...
affected my daughter.
- It's a sad story. - You feel bad.
Yes.
- Is that your son next to you? - Yes.
Nice to meet you.
- Hello. - Nice to meet you.
It was a difficult situation. Your mom had a difficult time too, right?
Of course it was hard for you too. What was it like?
I understand that Mom began meditating...
- to calm herself. - Yes.
But my sister thinks...
she can't communicate with Mom...
because of meditation.
But I think my family had an extremely hard time last year...
that this is a happy worry compare to last year.
- He thinks it's true. - When you think about it...
you had depression because your parents kept fighting,
but as Mom started meditating, their relationship got better.
Then it's not that big of a worry.
(Can she understand her mom?)
I can stand it if she meditates only.
If I tell her about my troubles in the academy,
she says, "That's nothing."
"It's worse for worse. You should think positive."
She doesn't try to understand you.
- I want her to sympathize. - She doesn't sympathize...
- but says you must endure it. - That's what she says.
She doesn't sound like a mother, but an ascetic.
She's probably disappointed.
Do you think your sister's worry is not worth thinking about?
I do think it's a worry because...
she's spending too much time on meditation.
When I come home from work and say I'm home,
she doesn't reply.
When I check her room,
she has a meditation video on with lights off,
and she's sitting down with her eyes closed. She doesn't say anything.
I was confused at first,
but I'm okay with it now.
How do you resolve problems with Mom?
I'm planning to study Korean painting.
- Oh, painting? - Yes.
I made a painting group...
to relieve stress.
I relieve stress by talking to the members.
She has a friend she often talks to. She's here.
Hello.
I'm 27-year-old Nam Min Jung...
- in her painting group. - Nice to meet you.
- She's older. - What do you usually talk about?
One day, she called me and said,
"It's so hard for me. Why is it so hard for me only?"
- I was shocked to hear it. - Okay.
I met her, and she said she couldn't communicate with her mom.
She said she can't wait to...
- live on her own. - Live on her own?
When she told me about the meditation,
- I thought it's nothing serious. - I know.
It sounds pseudo.
- Is that how it sounds? - Her impression?
- I... - You see...
if she wants to go on a diet, her mom plays a diet meditation.
It's inability to communicate with her.
- It's understandable. - Ma'am.
I'm really curious. Your children come home while you meditate,
and they say I'm home.
Do you really not hear it? Or do you hear it,
but refuse to break the flow?
- I can't break the flow. - Right. But you can hear it.
- Right? - I can hear a little bit,
- I see. - but I concentrate on meditation.
I respond when I'm done meditating.
(This is serious.)
I got curious and asked this to her daughter.
There are a lot of good meditation methods.
But she only follows one man's meditation method.
She doesn't know any other methods.
Why don't you listen to other people's meditation lessons...
and learn about other methods too?
I become peaceful and happy while listening to his lesson.
So I don't feel like listening to any other lessons.
But have you even tried?
- No. - I don't look for them.
Ma'am, you see,
when I first heard about it,
I thought it wasn't anything serious.
- But this is serious. - It's serious.
- It's serious. - Here's why.
You think your children would be happy...
because you found your peace. You think they'd like it too.
But the sound gives them stress.
What's worse is...
that they can't sympathize with you.
I am in the process of learning.
It's not like I am going to keep doing this.
I am in the process of getting better.
You meditate so much, but you are still hot-tempered.
- Then... - You need to meditate a lot.
The reason why your daughter became afraid...
was because she saw you and your husband fight.
There's a pattern I noticed in your words.
You said you were surprised by your daughter's condition.
You said you were hurt a lot too.
You said you want to be happy. Everything is about you.
(Everything evolves around her.)
This healing method works for you.
But who's going to heal your daughter?
You think your daughter will be better when you get better.
That's what you're thinking.
(It's time to find the right way to heal her daughter.)
There must be at least one thing...
that is good about your mom's meditation obsession.
Before she meditated, I had to go home by 9:30pm.
Now does she not notice it even if you go home late?
I intentionally went home later than 9:30pm.
I wanted to see when she will call me.
Was it 12 midnight? Was it 1am?
She didn't even call me. She sent me a text message...
asking when I was coming home.
She must've been meditating.
- Did it only end then? - Is that why you didn't call her?
After she got unwell, I became very anxious.
But after I got into meditation,
- I became less worried or anxious. - Right.
- You trust your daughter now. - Yes. I trust her completely.
But ma'am, it's like this.
This is really funny. You used to call her,
but now that you became happier, you trust her.
But you kept that all to yourself without informing her.
"I trust my daughter."
But...
That's how she feels.
Right. But she doesn't like expressing emotions. She hates it.
- What are those emotions? - "I love you. Thank you. Sorry."
- Who would hate saying that? - It's just...
that she's not at the age where she feels comfortable.
When I was her age, I never told my parents that I love them.
- She just feels awkward. - It's not easy.
It's her age too,
but because she can't bond with you, she doesn't want to say it.
It's like this.
Suddenly, you felt like quitting smoking.
So you started smoking a substitute.
But you got addicted to that substitute too.
You don't smoke anymore.
But you smoke too much of that substitute.
That's how it feels for your daughter.
She likes that you are happier.
But from morning to night, you meditate.
Meditating is important, but you need to...
- spend time and talk to her. - Right.
You have to do that constantly.
She feels like that man has taken her mother.
- Right. - The person...
who leads the meditation...
recommended me to meditate 15 minutes in the morning and...
- 15 minutes in the afternoon. - That's okay.
- That would be okay. - But...
when I felt happy after not feeling happy for a long time...
- You wanted to do more. - Right. I wanted to do more.
- The person who drinks too much... - They're the same.
drinks too much because she wants to drink more.
- It becomes a problem... - He's just like you.
- if you overdo it. - Right.
(Please lessen it.)
How do you want your mom to change?
Tell her your wish.
I feel happy seeing the meditation helping you...
to feel happier.
But I want you to talk to me when I come home.
You say you want to be a parent who gets respected by us.
And you say you are going to try...
to become that parent.
I respect you a lot,
and I love you. I hope you know that.
If you can't sympathize with me being sick,
I hope you will at least respect me.
Yes.
Joon, what do you think?
She's like an empty white sheet of paper.
It's important to listen to...
that old man telling you to be happy.
But your influence on her is much more important.
I thought this story was picked just to fill in the space.
But I think this is the biggest problem we've heard today.
- You think so? - That's understandable.
No matter what we say, she can't hear us.
- She's like that now. - Even when we are talking,
- she's meditating. - She's obsessed.
(She feels guilty.)
Set time apart from meditation...
and talk to your daughter. That will solve the problem.
- I think it's a worry. - You think it's a worry.
If you sympathize with this story, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - That's it.
Why don't you tell her something?
I never got to tell you how much I love you and thank you.
You don't like those expressions,
so I used to get hurt when I said those things to you...
and you hate it.
I mean it when I say them,
so I hope you will open your heart and accept me.
Thank you for living this tough world as my daughter.
I am sorry that I can't give you better things.
All right.
Of course, it's not easy...
for a person of your age to say "I love you".
It makes you feel embarrassed.
She told you many times that she loves you,
but you rejected her.
You have to change too to improve the relationship.
You said you respect her, but you didn't say you love her.
- Right. - Tell her you love her.
Tell her you love her.
(She feels very awkward.)
I love you, my parents.
Make finger hearts.
- This. - Really.
- This. - She said she loves her parents.
That's not it. It's this.
- Like this. - Don't put it inside. Take it out.
Why don't you say you love your mom and dad...
instead of saying that you love your parents?
I love you, Mom and Dad.
All right.
(I love you too.)
All right. I'm curious about how many votes they got.
How many votes did they get? Please reveal the result.
(The result)
(The last digit is 6.)
If they get 156,
- Make a guess. - they will be winning.
Is it 176?
It's 136.
- Good job. - Be happy!
(Cheers!)
This person wrote us a letter because he wants to...
change someone from head to toe.
Hello. I am a man in his 20s.
There's someone I want to change from head to toe.
From his 145kg body...
to his lazy and immature character,
I want to change everything. He is my elder brother.
"You can't gain more weight than that."
"Please move."
"My knees!"
"My knees hurt too much. I can't move."
He never moves.
He doesn't go to school, saying that he's going to drop out.
Every day, he just eats, sleeps, and plays games.
It's so frustrating to see him spend his day.
"Brother. I am in a hurry."
"Lend me 100 dollars. I will pay you back soon."
"Hey, I am in a lot of hurry. Lend me 1,000 dollars."
"Just 1,000 dollars."
He's into claw machine games.
He even got a loan to play it,
and he ended up becoming a credit delinquent.
He's helpless, isn't he?
"You're 27 now. When will you come to your senses?"
"Stop nagging! I will take care of myself."
"I have a plan."
What is that plan?
I feel frustrated whenever I see him.
Can you change my brother to be a new person in this new year?
Goodness.
Are the four of you dumbfounded?
- Yes. - You're surprised, aren't you?
But how expensive is it to play the claw machine game?
You know that it's a trick. The claw is really weak.
- It's a trick. - You can't keep trying.
The claw should look like this, but it always looks like this.
(He paid attention to the detail.)
- I know what you mean. - It's really annoying.
- You can fix that. - No.
I got really upset while playing it back in the US,
and I nearly got kicked out.
(The owners of the claw machine game shops don't like Joon.)
Claw machine game is one thing.
But he's more worried that...
his brother lacks motivation to live.
Let's bring him in. Please come on in.
(Who's the one worried about his elder brother?)
(Hwang In Sung)
(Welcome.)
How serious is it?
My brother is 27 this year.
He used to play sports. He majored in sports.
- But he missed most of his classes. - He skipped classes.
He's been taking the leave of absence.
How long has it been going on?
- It's been three years. - Three years is a long time.
Does he have a plan?
He's taking time off school to play.
He doesn't seem to have any thoughts.
(I hope he has a plan.)
- He kept asking you for money. - Yes.
At first, he borrowed 30 to 50 dollars.
Then it became hundreds of dollars. Even thousands.
- My goodness. - Did you lend it to him?
I was afraid that he would get a loan if I didn't.
You had to help him.
Do you not live with your parents now?
- They live in Jebu Island. - Jebu Island.
Do you live with your brother then?
Yes. It's just me and my brother.
What do you mean he's addicted to claw machine game?
How did he come to get addicted to it?
There was a time when it was very popular.
When he said he was going to play the game,
I thought it'd be nice for him to go and meet people.
But he gradually started playing more and more.
- Now, every night... - Every night?
Those game shops are open 24 hours.
He sometimes stays until 3 or 4am.
He plays in the early morning.
Sometimes, he comes home in the morning.
How long has he been playing this game?
It's been over a year.
But before you took it here, did you talk to him seriously?
He could've listened to you.
I tried many times.
But every time, his face hardened, and he refused to talk.
I couldn't change him by talking to him.
What do you think is his problem?
He went through a lot when he was serving the army.
He was always a little chubby, but he gained more weight there.
Are you saying he gained weight while serving the army?
He did when he became a sergeant.
We asked him for some of his brother's photos.
Let's see.
- That's not bad. - He was cute.
- He was normal. - He just had a chubby face.
- He was just a little chubby. - He was healthy.
When was that?
- Not elementary school, right? - I think he was in high school.
(It's hard to detect his age.)
- That's when he was 20. - He was 20.
He's got a baby face.
- He looks very young. - He looks like a big boy.
- I know. - Right.
(We get what he means.)
- He looks healthy. - He was fine until then.
Let's meet him.
Hello.
Look at that.
- Why did he put the mic there? - He was like a claw machine.
- He was like a claw machine. - He put it in his pocket.
Do you mind standing up for us?
Please turn around.
(He's very big.)
And that photo was from before he joined the army.
- He did gain a lot of weight. - Yes.
(He is quite big.)
Your brother said you're immature. What do you think about that?
I don't think that at all.
We fought many times over this.
I tried talking to him too.
But we couldn't talk.
Do you think you are mature then?
- Yes. - You play games until the morning.
(He plays claw machine game until the early morning.)
Your brother said you gained weight after joining the army.
He said it changed you. Did something happen during the service?
- When I became a sergeant, - Your life becomes good.
my life became more comfortable.
And my replacement...
was assigned to work at the post exchange.
You'd stay there all day then.
Are you blaming him then?
No.
I tried getting into taekwondo.
But it didn't work out.
Did you never think about exercising to get into shape?
My parents bought me...
a 10-month subscription for a gym.
I went there once, but I was hesitant to go back.
Was it tough when you went there?
I was determined to work out because my parents paid for it.
But they didn't care about me after that.
- Is that why you didn't go? - You...
like eating, don't you?
I think I eat as much as other college students.
- What? - And you became like that?
- Really? - It's not true.
- What happened? - Do you eat a lot?
- He must eat a lot. - I heard this from his friend.
They once went to a Chinese restaurant.
And he kept laughing in front of his friend.
When his friend asked him why he's laughing?
He said he was there an hour ago.
- To eat? - Yes.
- Did he eat again? - Yes.
What did you eat in the Chinese restaurant?
What did you eat an hour before and what did you eat then?
I am a big fan of jjajangmyeon.
First, I had a large size bowl of jjajangmyeon.
It wasn't enough, so I had one regular bowl with rice.
Do you think that's how everybody eats?
- That's what you ate... - Don't college kids eat like that?
This happened a while ago in the waiting room.
The shoot was resuming after a long break,
so I brought some snacks including egg tarts.
We were going to eat them after we talked.
But Yeong Ja grabbed an egg tart.
She ate it and said it was good. After saying that,
she must've felt guilty.
She raised her legs about two times.
(She was trying to be pardoned.)
You didn't see it, did you?
- Right. - When you eat something,
you should consciously move.
- Yeong Ja works out a lot. - She works out a lot.
Have you thought of that?
- I work out as much as I eat. - I don't...
just go to one place to play the claw machine game.
I have to walk to go to several claw machine shops.
- Right. - Do you consider that an exercise?
I think I just gain weight quickly.
- That's not true. - That's not it.
Don't you eat while playing games?
I have to concentrate on playing the game.
- So you don't eat. - I eat while I'm walking.
(He eats while he's walking.)
- While you're walking. - Do you walk while eating?
(The riddle has been solved.)
- You eat while walking. - I eat street food.
You stay up all night while playing games.
What do you find so funny about it?
People who love fishing must understand me.
- What? - It's got the thrill.
- The thrill. - Yes.
Do you feel the thrill when you push the button?
I am sure some of the people here understand the joy.
Joon knows.
There is no thrill.
They cut off all the tips, and you can't catch anything.
You need the tips,
but they don't have the tips. And there's no thrill in catching.
I played it for a long time.
I check the crookedness of the claw...
and test the machine with 1 to 2 dollars at first.
If the claw turns out to be strong,
I start putting in 5 to 10 dollars.
(He enjoys the thrill.)
I heard you tour around the claw machine shops.
- Why do you do that? - I am...
posting videos on YouTube. If I keep filming in one place,
it's boring,
and I need to move to a different area...
to find more unique toys.
That's why I take a ride with my friends...
and go to cities like Bupyeong, Bucheon, Kimpo, Suwon,
- and Konkuk University area. - How many toys do you have?
I don't have as much now.
But so far, I have won more than a thousand toys.
You said you have less now. How did you lessen them?
Did you sell them? Or did you put them back?
My friend runs a claw machine shop.
I borrow a machine...
and put all the machines I won.
Then do you share the profit?
I take all the profit.
- You take all the profit? - Yes.
It earns around a thousand dollars. But I use it to play.
You earn a thousand dollars, but you spend much more.
- That's why he lost his credit. - It became a minus.
How much do you spend in a month on playing games?
- Be honest. - 1,500 dollars on average.
- Then you're 500 dollars short. - You keep losing 500 dollars.
That amounts to 6,000 dollars of debt a year.
But on top of that, he spends to eat.
- Right. - We didn't consider the food cost.
- Also transportation. - It's 1,5000 dollars now.
But how much did you spend...
- when you were learning? - When you didn't know how to play.
I sometimes spent 500 to 1,000 dollars a day.
- What? - On claw machines?
That's when I was really stressed out.
But still, how can you spend 500 to 1,000 dollars a day?
- That's too much. - How much time...
do you spend on one machine?
The longest time I spent was 12 hours.
Isn't it tiring to play the game for 12 straight hours?
You spend 12 hours at a claw machine shop.
I eat with the owner.
Of course. You spend 500 dollars a day at his shop.
In the past,
claw machine game was considered something cute.
But nowadays, it's like gambling or obsession.
- Right. - It's similar to gambling.
He still has quite a number of toys at home.
Let's see how much they have.
One.
Two.
I won that toy too.
They are very cute.
Did you win those?
- They are cute. - They are really cute.
My gosh.
How many are they?
(The toys fill up the room.)
It's amazing that the toys don't overlap.
- They all look different. - They all look different.
I saw two of the same kind.
I saw two of the same kind too.
- There are overlapping ones. - There are two of the same kind.
- He's got a lot. - There are three.
There are many Doraemons too.
There's 5. There's 6.
There are three.
There are many Doraemons too.
- They look so cute. - There's Dooly too.
- How many are they? - There are different Doraemons.
I know.
Their facial expressions differ. Some are crying. Some are smiling.
No way.
He did well in this season.
They filled up the room...
(There are so many.)
- The room itself is like a machine. - He's done queuing them up.
It's like a shop.
My goodness.
151.
(There is a total of 152 toys.)
(The room is packed.)
Do you have all of those in your room?
They come wrapped in plastic.
Is your place spacious?
It's very small. It's less than 33 square metres.
- It's less than 33 square metres. - So around 30 square metres.
When you look at the thousand toys,
don't you think it's too much?
- Don't you regret it? - The veranda...
is empty anyway. So I want to fill it up more.
- You want to fill it up more? - Do you really fill that?
How do you measure up to your friends...
who travel to play the game with you?
- I think I am in the middle. - Middle.
Then you must be better than normal people.
- Right. - Is there a know-how?
- Don't you just do it? - There are tricks.
- There must be tricks. - They have their own tricks.
Din Din is stupid for saying this, isn't he?
(He's cute.)
You have your own tricks, don't you?
- We have our own tricks. - Do you?
We asked you if you are good at the claw machine game...
because we prepared it.
Let's see his skills. Please bring it in.
That's the claw machine. He can do it here.
I got four dolls last week.
Please bring the microphone.
No skills are required.
I haven't done it before.
(He walks carefully because his knees hurt.)
- I need to sit down. - Sit down.
It's uncomfortable, right?
It's uncomfortable to sit on the floor, right?
(Let me look after you.)
- Are your knees okay? - I am okay.
Put it under your knees.
(Here?)
(Yeong Ja is the best.)
- Should I begin? - Go ahead.
(Happy)
Which one are you going for?
He is an expert. He is digging up the dolls.
(He is an expert.)
He is pushing the dolls with the claw.
He is pushing the dolls.
(Firstly, he pushes the dolls with the claw.)
(He mixes the dolls.)
He is going for the black one.
(Picking)
He is going for the black one.
(No way.)
Will he get it in one go?
(He gets it in one go.)
No way!
(My goodness.)
He got it in one go.
No way.
Let's see it.
How did he get it in one go?
- Where is it? - This is incredible.
- My goodness. - How did he get it in one go?
Don't give him a big hand.
I couldn't help it.
Maybe the claw works well.
Come here and look. It's fascinating.
Maybe the claw works well.
- It's fascinating. - He is really good at it.
How did he get it in one go? I have never seen anything like it.
- My goodness. - The claw works well.
That's right.
The claw works well.
That's right.
(Is the claw really different?)
Let me give it a go.
- Let me give it a go. - Din Din, give it a go.
I think the claw works well.
If I get a doll, stop playing the claw machine game.
I will do that if you get two dolls in a row.
- If I do that, give up your habit. - That's right.
Hold on. My hands are sweaty.
(He becomes nervous.)
How fascinating!
My goodness.
(Good luck.)
Can you do it?
- Are you going for the pink one? - It's going in.
It's going in.
Let's get it.
(Let's see what happens.)
(Let's go.)
He got a doll.
(That's incredible.)
- He got a doll. - Come on.
My goodness.
- You promised. - You promised.
The claw works well.
- Get the one at the end. - That woke him up.
I don't think the claw will go in.
It will work if the claw goes in like this.
It's your fault if I don't get it.
Why is it my fault?
Let's try this again.
Which one should I go for?
I don't know.
- He won't tell you. - You have to take a guess.
Din Din, you need to do this.
Get the one in plastic wrapper. Oh, maybe that won't work.
(He gives it a go.)
(Gulping)
It won't work.
(The end of the luck)
Give it a go.
If he can get a doll now...
There are no dolls you can get at this point.
There really are no dolls you can get at this point.
The claw works well.
Which one will he go for?
He is going for the one in plastic wrapper.
(He hunts for dolls.)
In Sung's brother.
My goodness.
- It's in plastic wrapper. - I told you it won't work.
It's hard to get a doll in plastic wrapper.
All right.
(We enjoyed watching your performance.)
Din Din did a good job.
There is nothing wrong with playing the claw machine game...
- once in a while. - You should do it for fun.
- It's fun to watch too. - That's right.
I don't have a problem with him playing the claw machine...
- as a hobby. - Of course not.
I understand that.
However, he was so addicted...
that he saw an advertisement for a loan...
on Facebook and applied for it.
- He saw an advertisement on SNS. - Yes.
That's dangerous.
They said they will give him a loan...
if he gave them his card and bankbook.
- That's dangerous. - Who would believe that?
(It's a complete lie.)
My brother did and sent them his card and bankbook.
The police called him and said his account was used for schemes.
My goodness.
After he was conned,
I lent him 1,000 dollars.
However, he took out more loans.
(He took out more loans.)
This is serious.
He needs to pay back the loans.
Because he thinks they will be taken care of,
he doesn't worry even if he receives a notice of provisional seizure.
- Provisional seizure! - Who will pay back the loans?
My parents saw the notice.
They scolded him...
and paid back his loans.
That's why he acts that way.
I know. They shouldn't have paid them back.
I bet he gets high cell phone bills.
Yes. He makes advance payments...
with his phone.
One time, he got a cell phone bill of 3,000 dollars.
- What? - What did he buy?
You can't play the claw machine game that way.
I can get a refund from my transportation card.
- A refund? - Yes.
You first put money into your transportation card...
- and get a refund. - Yes.
Did you really get loans to play the claw machine game?
I had a credit card.
Since I could get a cash advance,
I took out a little at a time. Then the amount snowballed...
and I had to get a loan to pay it back.
Your parents paid it back.
- Yes. - Your parents didn't come.
- No. They had to work. - I see.
Tell us honestly.
Do you feel reassured when you take out a loan...
because your parents always have you covered?
Tell us honestly.
Yes, I do.
Do you feel bad for your parents and brother?
I do, but...
(He does feel bad for his family.)
It's hard to change, right?
You said earlier that...
you don't think you are immature.
Do you seriously think that even after hearing these stories?
Other people relieve their stress by drinking.
- Playing the claw machine game... - They use their own money to drink.
- We don't take out loans. - They don't use...
their parents' money to drink.
You are too old for that.
I am taking some time off now,
but I plan to start working out in February...
and look for a part-time job.
I will play the claw machine game in the evening.
I have plans,
but my family keeps nagging at me.
Can't you stop playing the claw machine game?
I broadcast it on the internet.
A lot of young people watch it.
- You want to be a star. - You have viewers.
When I hold a get-together,
17 people come.
- Elementary school students do. - There are many students.
They are immature, right?
Yes, they are.
I mean,
you broadcast in the internet.
Does it make you any profits?
Not really.
- Right? - I knew it.
You claim that your hobby...
is a part of work...
so that you won't feel bad...
about yourself.
That's right.
The person next to you must be an acquaintance.
Do you play the claw machine game with him?
I am also a YouTube creator.
When we spend a big amount of money,
the viewers live vicariously through us.
In that aspect, I understand him.
However, while it's necessary...
to play the claw machine game for broadcasting,
he doesn't need to do it in his free time.
- He goes on and on. - That's right.
I don't understand that.
It's a waste of time and money.
It's strange.
When did you think he was the most excessive?
If it isn't for the claw machine, he is nice...
and pure.
He is that way to a fault.
However, when he is in front of the claw machine,
- his eyes change. - He changes.
There are dolls that taunt you.
- That's right. - They drive you crazy.
You feel like you will get it if you try again.
You feel like you will get it if you try again,
but you have no money.
Then he says, "Lend me 5 dollars. Lend me 10 dollars."
Then the amount became 200 dollars.
He has borrowed 200 or 300 dollars from me.
How do his words make you feel?
I think that I need to cut down a bit.
Do you realize that you were excessive?
You need to cut down a lot.
He does plan to start exercising...
and working in February.
Do you believe him? Do you believe his plans?
No. I told you that he was conned once.
He told me that he will exercise hard.
- He said he will work. - He said he was sorry.
He even shed tears in front of me.
(His brother even shed tears.)
- I trusted him, - He broke your trust.
but he lived the same way after a few days.
He let you down.
Where did you get the money you gave him?
It was the money I had saved up...
from working part-time at night at private academies.
- You worked hard for that money. - You worked hard for that money.
Why did you let your brother down?
Why didn't you keep our promise?
I had decided to change a few times before.
Every time I do that, my brother nags at me...
even though he claims he is muttering to himself.
Be honest.
Let's say he doesn't nag at you.
Then can you stop playing the claw machine game?
- I will keep playing it. - See? Your words don't add up.
You are only making cowardly excuses.
He says he couldn't change because of your nagging.
What do you think about that?
I become stressed out by his behaviors.
While I didn't criticize him directly,
I muttered swear words.
All of the sudden,
(His brother heard him.)
he asked me if I was swearing at him.
He became angry at me.
He suddenly walked out to the veranda and asked...
- if I wanted him to die. - Gosh. That's pathetic.
- Why did you say such a thing? - I was shocked by his behavior.
So I stopped nagging at him after that.
Now, I'm trying to say only nice things to him.
However, he keeps blaming me...
for his problems, and that frustrates me.
Your brother must've been shocked. Why did you do that?
You shouldn't have said such a thing.
He kept...
In fact, when I got scammed...
When I got scammed,
I was very distressed.
Since he kept nagging at me while I was having a hard time,
I wondered if everything would be resolved...
(He did it out of distress.)
if I just disappear.
I did it impulsively.
He was already going through a hard time,
but his brother wouldn't stop nagging at him.
- So he thought... - I was having a hard time,
but he made the situation worse.
- You're 27, right? - Yes.
- You have unlimited potential. - Absolutely.
- He's very young. - Just because you're overweight,
you can't spend the rest of your life doing that.
I think it's best if you set priorities first.
- The first thing he should do is... - Think of what you should do...
stop binge eating.
I have been there too. When you binge eating,
you eat food because you want to forget your painful situation.
It makes you feel dazed and sleepy, and it becomes a vicious cycle.
It also makes your willpower weak.
So start with a proper diet. You're not eating normally now.
That will help you lose weight quickly.
Just eat one bowl of jjajangmyeon at a time.
One portion of ramyeon. Can't you do it?
Can't you do that?
Then make it a large portion of jjajangmyeon.
Like I said before, I once decided to...
lose weight and started exercising.
I set my goal too high.
- I decided to lose 30kg or 40kg. - Exactly.
- Right. - You shouldn't set too high goals.
I'll set lower goals and try to lose 5kg per month.
- That's good. - As for drinks,
people usually think fruit juice is healthy,
- but it's just a sugary drink. - What's with his pronunciation?
- It sounded like "sugar drink". - What is "sugar drink"?
- He's right about fruit juice. - If you just drink less juice...
Come to think of it,
I drink more than 1L of soda every day.
See? That's not good.
- It helps to lose weight. - If you quit drinking that...
- Drink water instead. - You drank too much sugar drinks.
Sugar drinks... He's right.
Did I pronounce it wrong?
- Sugary. - Right. That's what I said.
(He isn't taken aback.)
You said that you do this for those who feel satisfied...
while watching your internet show.
I don't know how heavy you are, but you weigh over 100kg, right?
If you weigh 80kg, more people will be interested in you.
Change the content of your internet show.
- I think... - That's the quicker way...
- to lose weight. - "Do you remember me?"
"I decided to quit doll-grabbing crane games..."
- "and start losing weight." - That's a good idea.
- I like that idea. - You'll be loved more by people.
Change your content. I'll subscribe your channel too.
Give it a try.
Quit doll-grabbing crane games and start losing weight, okay?
- Okay. - Good.
He went through hardships.
Tell your brother what you want for the last time.
I don't want you to quit doll-grabbing crane games.
I hope you can keep it moderate and maintain proper diet,
and we'll have more conversations and get along well.
Act like a big brother.
- Let's start with Chung Ha. - Okay.
You think it's a worry.
- I'm in the same position as him. - She thinks it's a worry.
- She thinks it's a worry. - But I will be rooting for you.
I can't do it for 12 hours in a row even if I was forced to do so.
Since you have that much of willpower and perseverance,
I believe you can be successful...
if you could channel your passion into something else.
- All right. - I think it's a worry.
He seems a little bit closed-minded.
I think he should start by opening up his mind.
He thinks it's a worry.
Because you lost confidence in yourself,
you're looking for something else.
Fix your problems one at a time. Start exercising, for example.
When you regain your confidence, you won't need crane games.
You've heard the story of an immature brother.
If you empathize with his story, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Time is up.
Say something to your little brother.
Until now,
I've been a big brother...
who only embarrasses you.
From now on, I will do my best...
to show you that I can change.
- Say something to your parents too. - Right. Say a word to them.
They must've been worried so much.
You have been distressed because of me.
(Dear my parents)
I will try my best to show you only positive changes.
Please trust me.
Thank you.
I wonder how many votes he got. Please show us the result.
"My Brother Is Stupid".
The last digit is 1. It's more than 100.
Among 200 people...
- 151 votes. - My gosh.
(He got 151 votes.)
"My Brother Is Stupid" is this week's winner.
Congratulations.
We will give the winner a prize.
Until the day we are all worry-free...
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("Tell Me" by Infinite)